Thursday, June 18, 2009

Accepting life's challenges

A walking limp, a dragging feet, a struggling pace.

Some of us empathised with the sufferer. Some, ignores the apparent.
Those who empathised but can walk freely does not truly understand how the sufferer feels.Those who disregard will suffer from ignorance.

We truly do not know the extend of suffrage a person with a medical condition or a permanent disability has to endure. Task that seem easy to normal adults are arduous for them.

When we empathised, do we imagine that we are them so that we can "feel" the same way or do we just offer pleasantries and hold doors.
The victims of such condition do not take the disability easily especially if they are inflicted during their adult life.

Comparing that to a child, who is born with the disability, they seem to accept it as we accept the mole that is on our face.

How do we then discern the difference? Facial and body expression speaks more than the flick of a tongue.

I have come across post stroke victim age 19 who blames his maker for the pain and humiliation he is enduring. His physical appearance betrayed the fact that he had a stroke before. Movement is as normal as any 19 year old, speech is fine, but his cognitive skill is impaired. He is unable to process information that requires process recalls and has a laggard ability to solve problems. Memorizing facts such as names and phone numbers is a task he has to struggle with. Other than that, all seems normal on the outlook. His ability to interact with others is perfect but his emotional center is skewered towards impatience.

The impatience stems from his anger and frustration. The fuel for his anger is the condition that he is suffering. Being once a believer he has turned agnostic. Cursing at his ill fate for a 19 year old strapping lad, he demeans himself with anger and impatience.

Both are potent poison that continue fueling his detachment from the rest. The self imposed exile has cost him his ability to seek happiness and acceptance of his condition.

His DANTIAN has been severely disturbed by the presence of negativity.

Knowing this and wanting to help, I listened. Listened to his pent up frustrations and anger. Why was he the chosen one?

I replied.

"You are not chosen- you are a victim of circumstances- no one chose you- it is like another random event that happen and it so happens to be you. You have got to ACCEPT it whether you like it or you don't. You can choose to be angry for the rest of your life or you can choose to live life to the fullest."


"Your ability to even communicate to me, proofed to me that you are on the path to recovery- the brain will regenerate- the blood vessels and nerve connections will find a way - just as how complex bearing a child to childbirth may be- a child can still be born."

"From air exchanges through umblical cord to breathing in open space- a newborn adjust to changes and accepts the environment- for they know they cant change the inevitable. The umblical cord that is severed signifies the freedom and independence to live on your own."

"Learning to breath, learning to eat, first steps of survival. Learning to walk, learning to talk are next steps to interaction. Learning to fall, learning to get up. Everyday, growing and learning- such is the nature and the quest of a baby. Why do we as adults then; stop.. learning?"


"EMBRACE the problem- TACKLE the inadequacies- ACCEPT the changes"

"Once you have gain acceptance, you may then find the center, the root of your anger. Extinguishing this anger will open your eyes to the blessings you are having."

After having said that, he walked away...

No one can help him, only himself can walk the path and seek his own DANTIAN...

Life itself is full of struggle, from coming out of the womb to fighting with old age. Accept life challenges as you accept the first breath of air..













"One feel no pain by merely looking at the needle- the pain starts as it pierces the flesh"